Parent Divorce
Assume function of parent and divorce is not always obvious.
Separation is difficult for the couple, both materially and emotionally, and the impact of parental divorce does not always translate immediately into the child’s behavior.
Studies have been made about this, and we know today that the divorce of parents, even if it takes place in a calm, is always a profound change in the world of the child, and a restoration question of values that justified it. A few simple principles, however, can minimize the effect of a divorce, and reassure the child about its role and responsibility.
For most parents, the divorce is preceded by a long period of unrest and conflict.
The alternation of disputes and reconciliation is disruptive for the child, because apparently arbitrary. It must of course take the child as much as possible out of disputes. But it still perceive the tension, pain or irritation of his parents. Are advised to explain to the child that his father and mother were very loved, but now they have trouble living together, and the child is neither responsible nor involved in disputes parents. The divorce will be of course viewed as a significant change daily, but not as a challenge to the child’s relationship with his parents.
When parents divorce, the child must remain possible to love both his father and mother, without feeling guilty. Each parent should be careful not to speak ill of another in front of the child, to keep away from all the financial issues raised by divorce, and not to use his words against the former spouse.
Parenting and divorce should remain two separate aspects of family life, and possible action of one over the other.
